I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (2023)

March 15, 2015 at 2:14 pm#408618Responder

I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (1)
elena

BOOHOO I went out with a very funny guy who took a great interest in me, we texted many hours during the day. I met her at a bar a few weeks ago while hanging out with my friends.

He bought me drinks and did all kinds of flirty, funny and cute things to me, when his friends wanted to go home (he didn't want to go but his friends were drivers) he asked for my number and we've been playing games ever since.

The consultation went very well! However, I was so nervous this was the first time I spent November with my ex-boyfriend since my bad breakup. (Who cheated on me) This was the first time I put myself out there and let him do all the work. He was really all over me, he was a little cautious but he sent me the cutest and funniest text messages, he complimented me all the time for liking me and wanted to get to know me and couldn't wait to see me. I was so impressed with the effort he put in, he quickly asked me out :)

Last Tuesday we went to the movies and then we had a few drinks and had fun! We were having so much fun, laughing and talking the whole time, I was scared there would be awkward silences or that I wouldn't like it, but I really thought, I want a second date with him! He had to work early the next day so we wouldn't be late. He gave me 3 kisses on the cheek and said he never kisses (slut kisses) on the first date and that he wanted to be a gentleman. I was so nervous that I didn't even hold his hand or try to kiss him during the movie. I was very shy
The next day I didn't hear any sound except the sound of crickets... not a single text when we were in touch for several hours every day. I thought, hmm, this is weird.

48 hours from the date I started talking I was like this is not a good sign or he's waiting for me to talk or he really doesn't like me or he's shy. I told him I had fun and asked how he was doing. He didn't respond for hours and then texted us saying he was having fun too, but didn't feel the same connection when we texted him (huh?)
He was also having a great time, but more like friends. I said, you know that after an hour of talking over drinks? He said yes and was sorry. Well if you do then stop here.

But now I'm hesitating, what happened??? It was going really well for me and I never had love at first sight so I was dying to go on a second date to get to know him better and see where this goes. But he already disconnected before we got anywhere.

I deleted the number right away, but now I'm thinking, I want to talk to him too, maybe I'll have a second date and not be so nervous.

Wise words are welcome!

March 15, 2015 2:29 pm#408622Responder

I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (2)
rabe

Hello Elena,
Sometimes things just aren't meant to be...

Please do not contact him again he said where he was.

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March 15, 2015 2:39 pm#408631Responder

I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (3)
Khadiya

Hello Elena,
At least he was honest with you.
Go ahead and stick around.
You will find someone who is interested in continuing to see you.

March 15, 2015 at 2:44 pm#408632Responder

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rosa

Let him go, he's already made up his mind.
Don't waste your time and energy. Whatever the reason, it's not your fault. Maybe he didn't feel that chemistry, maybe it's someone else. Who knows? ...go ahead girl.

March 15, 2015 at 3:33 pm#408648Responder

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Stephanie

This is why you don't get excited about a good first date. Have you ever had fun with someone but didn't feel "it"... the guy wasn't doing anything "wrong" but the spark wasn't there? I'm sure yes. That's how it was with him, and it wasn't his fault. That's why we agreed to meet to test the waters. He had enough information to make his decision. Oh well. NEXT!!

March 17, 2015 at 5:27 pm#409348Responder

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I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (6)
elena

I was very impressed with the way he treated me and the effort he made to approach me and ask me out. I was really impressed! He was very respectful and sweet. I've never been in love at first sight, so I was dying to go on a second date. If you have nothing in common and nothing to talk about, I understand why he rejected me, but now it's weird and I just think: what happened?

I don't do miracles, I get nervous, especially when I'm on a real date with a new guy for the first time since my relationship ended. Was I very careful, maybe a little too careful? Rather than rushing into a situation, I waited and watched as things unfolded. Maybe I needed to make more flirty comments or give more compliments, this time I really wanted to "let him chase me" but that didn't work either in the end, I mean I didn't even want to go on a second date.

I deleted his number and haven't heard from him since. It's a nuisance, I think.

March 17, 2015 at 5:41 pm#409351Responder

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Khadiya

Please stop.
It was just a date, you don't need to analyze what you did and what you didn't do.
This guy just wasn't for you.
Honestly, this might happen a few more times with other guys. It could be after the first date or after a few dates that they decide they don't want to be with you anymore.
Always remember that you are good enough and someone will like you just the way you are.
When you go on a date, just enjoy it and don't get your hopes up. If so, call great again if not CONTINUE!
You don't have to waste time groveling for a man who didn't want you.
I see women doing this all the time, expending this energy to meet someone who is interested in you.
Don't take any of this personally (although it can be difficult).
You'll have another date, don't worry about this guy.

March 17, 2015 at 5:59 pm#409357Responder

I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (8)
vanessa

I agree with all of them and would like to add one thing. How many days did they send text messages before the date? You mentioned that you texted for hours. It must be short at the beginning of the text before a date and between dates. Only use it to make plans and quickly sign up when it starts. After all the text messages, your expectations weren't met. The spark wasn't there in person, as the back and forth can be in the lyrics. Please continue this dating journey and see it as a stepping stone to getting to one! Don't think too much or you'll spoil the next one. :-)

March 17, 2015 at 6:16 pm#409360Responder

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I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (9)
lachica

That's the problem with sending too many text messages before going on a date. You build it up in your mind that you have this great connection, but where you are, one or both of you don't feel it. It has to be personal to really know if you have chemistry.

I'm sorry you're disappointed, but the other women are right. Don't invest in someone over text message. Be brief, get together and go from there.

March 17, 2015 at 6:34 pm#409364Responder

I got dumped after the first date, you have no idea what went wrong?! - a new mode (10)
amy s

Hello. Oh well, sometimes you just have to grab it by the chin. Some win, some lose, but it's not always possible to find the real reason, so I completely agree with everyone else and leave it at that. The guy may have a girlfriend and now his bottle has burst. Who knows, who cares. he lost. It might not be for him, but luckily there are millions of singles out there. So focus on that and not on that. Respect the guys wishes and move on. good luck

March 17, 2015 at 6:43 pm#409368Responder

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redcurleysue

I'm sure he liked you enough, but the chemistry just wasn't there for him. This is the dating game... we like them and they don't like us... they like us and they don't like us... over and over again.

This is life and dating. You don't want to worry about it, it happens to everyone. Just say ok, I'll find my love... one step closer.

March 17, 2015 at 7:27 pm#409377Responder

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sensitive

Dating gets better with every dating experience when you have no expectations and enjoy the moment :) Now you know you don't have to waste energy on texting to keep your emotions in check.

03/17/2015 at 8:17 pm#409386Responder

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tara

There is also a possibility that he has a girlfriend. You had an appointment on Tuesday. Classic attempt to distract a girl. Maybe, maybe not, but a possibility.

March 17, 2015 at 8:30 pm#409389Responder

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Laney

You sound like you have a great personality. It happens to everyone. Chemistry is a mysterious thing. It's like there's a spark that happens in real life: either it's there or it's not. If not, it's nobody's fault. For some reason, this guy didn't feel it. Dust off and keep going. Your true love is waiting to meet you. He might be the next one you meet, or he might be waiting a little further down the road. You have to move on from this confusing experience (we all know how shitty that sucks) and keep trying to find your true love to get to him. Maybe he or she needs to learn life lessons or get to know people before their lives adjust. But he will come into your life and it's usually when you least expect it!

March 17, 2015 at 9:22 pm#409400Responder

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Yeah... do like Frozen and let it go. You just need to know that sometimes the chemistry wasn't right. This has happened to me before: great phone conversations and texts, then an in-person date and blah, low... no chemistry. Wait for the one who gives you fireworks when you meet and see if he stays afterwards. And... you didn't do anything "wrong"... it just wasn't right :)

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